felt needs

    • Choice, Empowerment

    • Freedom, Independence

    • Space, Spontaneity

    • Acceptance, Affection

    • Appreciation, Belonging

    • Closeness, Communication

    • Community, Companionship

    • Compassion, Consideration

    • Consistency, Cooperation

    • Empathy, Generosity

    • Inclusion, Intimacy, Love

    • Mutuality, Nurturing

    • Openness, Reliability

    • Respect / Self-respect

    • Safety, Security

    • Stability, Support

    • To know and be known

    • To see and be seen

    • To understand and be understood

    • To be heard

    • Trust, Understanding, Warmth

    • Balance, Beauty, Communion

    • Ease, Equality, Equanimity

    • Inspiration, Order, Peace

    • Serenity

    • Authenticity, Clarity

    • Congruency, Integrity

    • Openness, Presence

    • Reliability, Self-expression

    • Transparency, Trust

    • Awareness, Celebration

    • Consciousness, Contribution

    • Creativity, Discovery

    • Effectiveness, Efficacy, Growth

    • Hope, Learning, Mattering

    • Mourning, Participation

    • Purpose, Self-expression

    • Adventure, Joy, Humour

    • Spontaneity, Stimulation

    • Air, Food, Movement/Exercise

    • Rest/Sleep, Sexual expression

    • Safety, Shelter, Sustenance

    • Touch, Water

Enjoyed feelings

    • Empowered, Open, Proud

    • Safe, Secure

    • Affectionate, Compassionate

    • Friendly, Loving

    • Open, Openhearted

    • Sympathetic, Tender

    • Vulnerable, Warm

    • Absorbed, Alert, Curious

    • Engrossed, Enchanted

    • Entranced, Fascinated

    • Interested, Intrigued

    • Involved, Spellbound

    • Stimulated

    • Amazed, Animated, Ardent

    • Aroused, Astonished

    • Dazzled, Eager, Energetic

    • Enthusiastic, Giddy

    • Invigorated, Lively

    • Passionate, Surprised

    • Vibrant

    • Blissful, Ecstatic, Elated

    • Enthralled, Exuberant

    • Appreciative, Moved

    • Thankful, Touched

    • Expectant, Encouraged

    • Optimistic

    • Amazed, Awed, Radiant

    • Rapturous, Thrilled

    • Wonder

    • Amused, Delighted, Glad

    • Happy, Jubilant, Pleased

    • Tickled

    • Calm, Clearheaded

    • Comfortable, Centered

    • Content, Equanimity

    • Fulfilled, Mellow, Quiet

    • Relaxed, Relieved, Satisfied

    • Serene, Still, Tranquil

    • Trusting

    • Enlivened, Reinvigorated

    • Rejuvenated, Renewed

    • Rested, Restored, Revived

unwanted feelings

    • Apprehensive, Dread, Foreboding

    • Frightened, Mistrustful

    • Panicked, Petrified

    • Scared, Suspicious

    • Terrified, Wary, Worried

    • Enraged, Furious, Incensed

    • Indignant, Irate, Livid

    • Outraged, Resentful

    • Aggravated, Dismayed

    • Disgruntled, Displeased

    • Exasperated, Frustrated

    • Impatient, Irked, Irritated

    • Animosity, Appalled

    • Contempt, Disgusted

    • Dislike, Hate, Horrified

    • Hostile, Repulsed

    • Ambivalent, Baffled

    • Bewildered, Dazed

    • Hesitant, Lost

    • Mystified, Perplexed

    • Puzzled, Torn

    • Alienated, Aloof, Apathetic

    • Bored, Cold, Detached

    • Distant, Distracted

    • Indifferent, Numb

    • Removed, Uninterested

    • Withdrawn

    • Agitated, Alarmed

    • Discombobulated, Disconcerted

    • Disturbed, Perturbed

    • Rattled, Restless

    • Shocked, Startled

    • Surprised, Troubled

    • Turbulent, Turmoil

    • Uncomfortable, Uneasy

    • Unnerved, Unsettled, Upset

    • Ashamed*, Chagrined

    • Flustered, Guilty*, Mortified

    • Self-conscious

    • Beat, Burnt out, Depleted

    • Exhausted, Lethargic

    • Listless, Sleepy, Tired

    • Weary, Worn out

    • Agony, Anguished

    • Bereaved, Devastated

    • Grief, Heartbroken, Hurt

    • Lonely, Miserable

    • Regretful, Remorseful

    • Depressed*, Dejected

    • Despair, Despondent

    • Disappointed, Discouraged

    • Disheartened, Forlorn

    • Gloomy, Heavy hearted

    • Hopeless, Melancholy

    • Unhappy, Wretched

    • Anxious, Bitter, Cranky

    • Distressed, Distraught

    • Edgy, Fidgety, Frazzled

    • Irritable, Jittery, Nervous

    • Overwhelmed, Restless

    • Stressed out

    • Fragile, Guarded

    • Helpless, Insecure

    • Leery, Reserved

    • Sensitive, Shaky

    • Envious, Jealous

    • Longing, Nostalgic

    • Pining, Wistful

not feelings

These are often confused as feelings but are judgments of others' actions:

Abandoned, Abused, Accused, Attacked, Belittled, Betrayed, Blamed, Boxed-in, Bullied, Cheapened, Cheated, Coerced, Condemned, Controlled, Cornered, Criticized, Devalued, Diminished, Discredited, Dismissed, Disparaged, Distrusted, Excluded, Harassed, Ignored, Insulted, Interrupted, Intimidated, Invalidated, Judged, Let down, Manipulated, Micromanaged, Misunderstood, Mistrusted, Neglected, Offended, Oppressed, Patronized, Pressured, Provoked, Put down, Rejected, Ridiculed, Ripped off, Scapegoated, Shamed, Taken for granted, Threatened, Tricked, Trivialized, Unappreciated, Unheard, Unloved, Unseen, Unsupported, Unwanted, Used, Victimized, Vilified, Violated, Wronged